“Is physical force the only option you have when confronted by an aggressor?”
This article was shown to me unprompted by my son. I thought it contained some good points, and that it would be interesting to readers as representative of the opinions of one young man on the subject of self-defense. – Editor
A lot of people think that just because people may be potentially hostile to them, you’re justified in using physical force and it’s as simple as that. There’s nothing else to think about. But that’s not necessarily true. There is a lot more to take into account.
There is much more to self defense than just having martial skills, Kung fu skills, gun skills, knife skills, whatever. Self- defense is also about awareness and avoiding potentially hostile situations. Being good at sticking up for yourself or someone else doesn’t mean you go around looking for trouble. I don’t care how tough you think you are, don’t go jeopardizing your life when there’s absolutely no need for you to do so.
When it comes to defending your life, you have to ask yourself what your options are. Do I have an opportunity to flee this situation and avoid conflict, or is physical force the only option that I have? If you find yourself confronted by an aggressor and you see an opportunity to flee the scene, by all means flee! Don’t let your ego get in the way.
There was a guy I knew once who said that if he we’re in a bar with his sister and a drunkard simply insulted her, he would not hesitate to beat him up. When I asked him, “What if you have the opportunity to simply get yourselves the hell out of there?,” his answer was, “I don’t care what other options I have. If he is insulting my sister, I’ll kick his @^# and show him nobody insults my sister! He picked the wrong person to #$%# with. If I don’t fight, he’ll think I’m a pussy.” Sounds like someone who wants to go to jail! When I told him that if I were in that same situation I would have just walked away, he looked at me like I fell down from Mars. Even better, I told him that I wouldn’t even be in a place like a bar to begin with. I didn’t ask him this, but he didn’t seem to have an answer for the police if they came later to investigate the scene.
This is not about going around looking for trouble. Swallow your ego! Self-defense is about survival, not going around showing the world how tough you are! Am I condemning the use of lethal force in self defense? Absolutely not! What I am saying is that lethal force is the absolute last thing that you want to have to resort to in order to defend your life! As Mike Seeklander said once, “the ultimate key to survival are awareness and avoidance.” Krav Maga experts say, “It’s better to avoid a fight than to fight. However, if you cannot escape at all, it’s better to fight than to get killed.”
So always know what your options are in a potentially dangerous situation. Thanks for listening everyone! And stay safe!