“What’s Normal?,” by Nev Sagiba


“Our doubts are traitors,
And make us lose the good we oft might win
By fearing to attempt..”

William Shakespeare

“Normal” is a conformist concept born out of fear and doubt and everything that stifles our expanding, bright, light generating, natural creative potentials. “Normal” is the noose around the neck accepted by most people conforming fearfully to the sheeple trends of the time. Fit in. Be afraid. Mimic everyone else’s retarded, restricted, in-the-Matrix, self hypnotized, don’t-rock-the-boat etc mentality. I think “normal” is a disease. “Normal” people seek instant gratification and get exploited by predators thereby. There is no such thing in nature. Everything has a price.

We are designed to be OUTSTANDING. At least at one thing but preferably in everything we do.

But once infected with the sorry attitude of a conformist “normality,” we don’t want to upset anyone. Nobody who contributed to the advancement of humanity EVER fitted in. They were always rocking the boat and were generally uncomfortable to the status-quo quagmires of mediocrity. This is not to a say be a destroyer, the over the edge extreme. Not at all. The destroyers of history are forgotten in well deserved ignominy.

All variables of human love are about CHANGE, the nature of the Universe itself. Well directed change is mostly a tad uncomfortable at first but invariably pays huge dividends in happiness after. Through change it is earned. A new athlete suffers for about 8 to 12 weeks during which a TRANSFORMATION takes place. After that it’s all the reward in well earned: bliss, happy juices, endorphines and naturally generated glycogen-peak highs the body produces during brief physical intensity.

“Normal” people are fixated in dead, past paradigms, so they begin with the preconceived notion of, “I can’t” and so they can’t; having programmed that in. Driving with the brakes on without even starting the engine is guaranteed to go nowhere. So much for normal. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

Who dares may be considered abnormal or weird but guess what? Over time and persistence you remake yourself closer to the ideal you aspire to and ARE WORKING towards. In any field of endeavour, a little bit of something daily, accrues dividends which over time, almost imperceptibly become huge gains. This in all things!

When you discover new fears and weaknesses, and want to face them, that’s what they are there for, to be faced and made into steppingstones, listen to those who’ve gone before. We all need help and can learn from someone who has dared and won. Listen well. Embrace their advice. At least TRY! By try I mean at least a thousand times just to warm up.

Not saying you need to go out of your way to be weird. But “normal” people may think you are when you make the choice to actively step outside of The Matrix. If you let habituated, casehardened and calcified “normalness” bind your mind, you’re f**ked. You won’t get any healthy, beautiful, joyful lifestyle from fear.

Choice! Moment to moment choice is the determinant. Bold, quiet honesty in manageable installments. Sure, you may from time to time trip and make a fool of yourself, faux-pas (that’s French for “f**k-ups,”) but mistakes are the beginning of LEARNING CURVES, change and new living growth!

That’s my view.

Nev Sagiba


  1. Bogdan Heretoiu says:

    Interesting thoughts.. On my part, “normal” is not really a good choice of a word. As language offers us meaning, “normal” is closer to “healthy” rather than a “disease.” Maybe a different choice of words is called in this case.

    You seem to “assign” a variable meaning to the word (and I get it), but that assignment of the meaning comes from personal interpretation, not general understanding of language. And I may dare say, it may come from personal frustration.

    Even if “normal” was such a disease, there would still be nothing to fear about, but rather to experience and understand perspectives, points of view, choices of lifestyle.

    We all do our best during our life, to the best of our knowledge, ability, and exposure to experience. There is no “only black and white”, but a full range of gray in our lives.

    I know a lot of “normal” people who fit in your characterization and generalization of the term. For the most part, they are good people. They do try daily. They do make choices, even if not larger than life choices. They do not seek instant gratification, instead they work their way – as best as they can – through their daily lives.

    Again, I understand your intention, as a message, but in my opinion you are using an incorrect term/word, framed in an incorrect paradigm, while the deeper levels of inner frustration may be misleading others into similar generalization.

    All people, rich or poor, black or brown, young and old, etc, etc…do their best at what they think it’s what they are supposed to do. I have found the ideal path for myself, but I don’t assume to be the ideal path for anyone else.

    All I am saying is, don’t lose sight of the gray between the black and white.

    Bogdan Heretoiu

    • Paul Jansson says:

      Hi Bogdan, have you heard this one? “In a mad world, only the mad are sane.” Akira Kurosawa.

      Paul Jansson

      • Good one Paul. Here is one of my favorites:
        “It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.” (Krishnamurti)

        I hope my comment did not offend.. I only took a swing at the semantics there, or at least intended to. That’s mostly because for….normal people….semantics have great impact.

        The same gentleman I quoted (or maybe it was Tagore) once answered the following in a dialogue:

        (In regard to a recently convicted man, for murder, people asked him if he was content with the verdict and if it was justified) JK answered something like – “he was a man who bathe every day.” (the bathing was in reference to a spiritual ritual, not necessarily a shower)

        A good reminder about judging others, and categorizing them too easily. Even the most “normal” human, has his/her own process, values, struggles, etc.

        At least that’s how I look at things as often as I can..


    • I wonder how many shades of gray there really are. More than 50, I guess.

      They are not grey. That middle vibratory range of infinite possibilities is where the HEART dwells in the very image of the infinite Universal spectrum, our original Self.

      EVERY living individual is a quiet, unrecognized hero! Make no mistake of that! Everyone is fighting a personal battle against odds that to them are meaningful, if in nothing more than that’s the burden of this day. Constantly dealing with and overcoming the things that get in the way of greatness, those walls, which whilst really steppingstones, sometimes appear insurmountable.

      There comes a time in everyone’s life when sometimes we need a leg up. It’s not a contest. But an opportunity to help each other. Aiki! The all-win paradigm at times may appear to be difficult to implement. Love can be scary. Fighting we know well. Sometimes we can’t tell the difference. Often other weird forces can be involved.

      Total, ruthless honesty feels risky, but in the end, implemented with care and skill, wins the day.

      People think they are average because sometimes the world we’ve made can be drab, dull, boring and even feels likes it’s crushing you at times. It takes courage to step out without the guarantee of a parachute.

      It can be done. I don’t know how much of it is really grace at work or our own efforts. Probably all and both.

  2. Thank you Nev! You awesome..sorry I’am in Vancouver, BC. Could be absolutely nice to meet you sir to share thoughts..

  3. Anthony says:

    I really appreciate that we can even have these disscussions in an open forum. With the never ending sophomore debate on does Aikido work? Do you ever wonder if they ever have these. Dialogues in MMA circles?

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