I know we have all heard the phrase from just about every fight fan, or jerky kid in an audience who watches fighting, Aikido is for losers! And that statement may be far more true than that idiot gives it credit for.
What are we Losing? We lose the attitude that aikido will make us great fighters, or movie heroes.
We lose that selfish self-aggrandizing attitude somewhere down the road by year two or three of training, and replace it with a quiet respect for knowledge learned in all styles of martial arts, right?
LOSE the attitude! Become the happy spirit in harmony who is hidden, not the loud-mouthed spectacle who is center of attention. The quiet loser will be the survivor!
(Let’s not confuse small social circles with war and genocidal maniacs, I am referring to community, and the small social circles we participate in everyday.)
The quiet changes that come when we realize, ONE OF OUR GREATEST WEAPONS IS our quiet, positive attitude to blend in as one of the crowd and effect positive change in the society around us. The martial arts are nothing more than a tool we use to lose that bad attitude, lose that blindspot, lose the fear (or should I say control the fear) so we can be active participants in life itself as we find OUR PLACE in not only nature, but the society of civilization human beings create.
I like being lost. I have found I can get by on what I need and not overindulging on the things I want. I am in the MAJORITY, and not the puppet of managers, or a slave to some career. Sometimes people don’t understand that I am doing what works for me as I refuse testing, or don’t want to try out for American Idol, or want to be the center of attention. What works for me is to be me and just step up occasionally to impress people for a moment or two, then quietly vanish back into the crowd. That kind of being lost is what the MAJORITY of us will be most of our lives.
Why fuss over the losses? Why not just enjoy the little victories, enjoy the good things in life, the little things?
So if losing the attitude, losing the blindspot, losing the stupidity is what Aikido helps one do, sure, add it to your list of things to try out. Move it up on your “bucket list” you should have made when you were a kid realizing that you ain’t gonna live forever and there are things you want to do before you die.
Downgrade what you wished you could have done when you were a kid to what you can do for who you are right now in whatever stage of life you are in. Deal with what you need versus with what you get.
You finally realize it doesn’t matter what other people think about what you want to do because once you have a positive moral compass set in your life. It isn’t their life, but it is your life that you need to be concerned about as life is about the MANY, MANY LOSERS who are not the winners.
Lose the attitude, lose the self-pity, get your butt in gear! Enjoy life! The happiest people on the mat are those who conquer the little problems in their technique, their falls, their clumsy skill level that finally improves for their aikido practice.
When each famous, rich, successful person reaches their goals, their goal is to be satisfied at being the average person who enjoys the simple things in life! I say, “SHORT-CUT!” Downgrade your dreams to things you can reach, and go straight for satisfaction of the little things in life.
Don’t get me wrong, because if the opportunity to reach your upgraded dreams comes along you should try in some way to reach for those dreams, but don’t go off the rails because you fail.
We don’t all need to be movie stars, billionaires, or influential people because most of us will simply be LOSERS, and for a fact, losers run the world.
Not everyone can be Bruce Lee! Who cares! Our goal in not to be great fighters who want to be rich movie stars, our goal is to be better people who have good health, a wealth of friends and acquaintances, let alone find our place in the world.
The goal of the so-called aikido-losers is not to fight against the world but to learn to live in harmony with the world.
I am not worried about the sports-fighting, nor about the mixed martial arts talk, but I am worried about becoming one of those mindless idiots who think that might always makes right. There is a point where we must stop the escalation of violence and say enough is enough. We need to lose the attitude, gain some insight and use commonsense.
If Aikido helps to you to lose, helps to give you commonsense, adjusts your attitude, count me in, I am a LOSER!
How about you? Are you paying way too much attention to what other people say?